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Erectile Dysfunction or Impotence and use of Viagra (or Cialis) and Sex Therapy

Erectile dysfunction or impotence affects 50% of men over 40 years of age which is an estimated 30 million people in the U.S and approximately 140 million men worldwide. This is likely to be underestimated as many men do not report erectile dysfunction symptoms due to shame or embarrassment. Erectile Dysfunction can include libido issues, delayed or premature ejaculatory function and erectile function (inability to get or maintain an erection). This can mean not having an erection to fantasy alone or requiring excessive stimulation to get an erection or find that erections are semi-hard and may get softer easier. Erectile dysfunction is not failing to get an erection after excessive amounts of alcohol nor failing to get an erection after a period of extreme stress. ED that has a gradual, slow onset is usually blood flow or nerves. ED that comes on quickly can be due to a medication or mental health issues such as depression or anxiety.

Impact of Erectile Dysfunction on a relationship

Erectile dysfunction can have a devastating effect on a relationship a partner may believe that she is no longer attractive, even if you assure her that this is not true. It can lead to a loss of self-esteem and avoid sex or sexual playfulness. Because there is a lack of sexual initiation, a partner may incorrectly feel that they are not loved.

Impact of Viagra on a relationship

Viagra, like Cialis and Levitra, works by increasing blood flow to the penis, enabling a harder, longer-lasting erection. Viagra does not work on emotions a broken relationship or create sexual desire that is not there. While Viagra solves the physical side of getting an erection, it may create psychological issues. Some people take Viagra without telling their partner. This can be taken a breach of trust in a relationship and raises other tricky questions such as should you tell a partner before each time you take a pill. If someone has been taking Viagra and then stops taking it, a partner may notice that something is different and get anxious. In addition, the person that taking Viagra may create a psychological dependence on taking it and not be able to perform without this. As Viagra needs to be taken 3 hours before intimacy, it makes spontaneous sexual activity difficult. A partner may also feel pressure or an expectation of sex if their partner has taken Viagra. It can affect a partners sense of self-esteem as well as a sense of security as they can question does he really like me or is it the pill talking?. It is much better to talk with a partner and make a decision as a couple and certainly not in secret. It is also worth seeking sex therapy counselling first before taking Viagra or Cialis to explore other possible alternatives to Viagra and Cialis and rule out any underlying causes.

When taking Viagra or Cialis is a mutual decision, it can have a positive effect on the relationship and change lives for the better.

Side Effects of Viagra

Viagra is contra indicates for individuals with low blood pressure, have degenerative retinal disorders, kidney disease, liver impairment, cardiovascular risks. In some individuals, Viagra can cause loss of vision (particularly in people with diabetes, high cholesterol or heart disease). It can also cause headaches, indigestion, sensitivity to light and nasal congestion. Cialis can be expensive and cost approximately $30 per tablet.

Causes of erectile dysfunction

In counselling, we can explore potential causes of erectile dysfunction. It may be prior negative disappointing sexual experience can create a fear-based thought, which causes anxiety or relationship issues. There may be a psychological dependency on taking Viagra or Cialis. In some circumstances it may be medical such as low testosterone, blood pressure, diabetes, prostate surgery or side effect of a medication. Even if there is a medical cause sex therapy and and counselling are still incredibly useful to discuss sexual enhancement, communication and how to have a sexually fulfilling sex life with a partner.

 

Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is one of the most frequent sexual dysfunctions affecting up to 40% of men. The International Society for Sexual Medicine defined Premature Ejaculation as 1) ejaculation always (or nearly always) occurring either prior to vaginal penetration or within 1 minute 2) inability to delay ejaculation in all (or nearly all) vaginal penetration and 3) negative personal consequences for the affected individual including distress, frustration, or avoidance of sexual intimacy.

Impact of Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation can affect self-esteem quality of life, satisfaction with intercourse, result in low self-confidence and result in relationship issues and performance anxiety.

Indicators of Premature Ejaculation

Traditionally, clinical trials have only considered intromission time and not considered emotional distress and sexual dissatisfaction. Indicators of Premature Ejaculation may include:

  • Difficulty in delaying ejaculation
  • Ejaculation happening before it is desirable
  • Ejaculation occurring with very little stimulation
  • Feelings of frustration due to lack of control over ejaculation
  • Concerns that ejaculation leaves your partner unfulfilled

Delayed Ejaculation

Delayed ejaculation is the least studied and understood male sexual dysfunction occurring in an estimated 1-4% of men (Chen 2016). Delayed ejaculation is defined in DSM-5 as difficulty achieving orgasm despite adequate desire, arousal, and stimulation. It may be lifelong or it may be acquired. Although there is no time definition of what is “normal” vaginal-penile penetration, some studies have found that the average time from vaginal penetration is 5.4 minutes (Waldinger et al 2005) and other studies) found that 75% of individuals ejaculation within two minutes of penetration at least half the time (Kinsey (1948). Frequently men that present with delayed ejaculation are able to ejaculate while masturbating however unable to do so with a partner during intercourse. Other indicators of delayed ejaculation are distress or frustration at lack of sexual satisfaction, stopping because of sexual fatigue, physical irritation or a request from your partner to stop.

Causes Delayed or Retarded Ejaculation

Psychological causes can include depression, anxiety, relationship problems, performance anxiety, poor body image, cultural or religious stigma and differences between the reality of sex with a partner and sexual fantasies. The later can occur due to unusual masturbation techniques from pornography use which can cause genital desensitisation (Bronner 2014). Medications such as antidepressants, antipsychotics, medication for high blood pressure, substance abuse, chronic health conditions, surgeries can cause delayed ejaculation. Whatever the cause, sex therapy and counselling can help identify the underlying cause and provide a treatment plan.

Retrograde Ejaculation

Retrograde ejaculation occurs when the ejaculatory fluid travels backward into the bladder rather than through the urethra. Anejaculation is the total failure of seminal emission into the posterior urethra. Common symptoms include dry orgasm, infertility and cloudy urine. Causes of retrograde ejaculation include diabetic nerve damage, prostate or bladder surgery and radiation therapy to treat cancer. Treatment includes managing blood sugar levels if you are a diabetic and starting or changing medication. Sex Therapy and relationship counselling can help manage concerns and assist maintaining or rebuilding a great relationship with a partner. 

Painful Sexual Dysfunction

There is surprisingly little academic research done on painful sex in men, despite alot of studies on cis female individuals. One such cause is Peyronie’s disease is the development of scar tissue that can result in curved and painful erections. Enlarged prostate, yeast infections, psoriasis, dermatitis, allergies to chemicals or latex condoms, herpes or any situation where the foreskin is too tight. When pain has been present in the past, a fear-tension-pain cycle can result. This means that a fear that sex will be unpleased can create anxiety which results in tension and result in an inevitable dissatisfying sexual experience.

Treatment of Erectile Dysfunction

The brain is the biggest sex organ and erections and great sex begin there. Counselling, Mindfulness, and self- hypnosis can clear any negative sexual experience, shame, and guilt and help manage stressors that have nothing at all to do with sex and help you focus on sexual pleasure. Sports people have used visualision for eons Two of the most common reasons I frequently see for erectile dysfunction are anxiety and past negative experience which created a phobia such a prior painful sexual experience. In some instances, sex therapy may mean redefining what sex is and looking at alternatives to intercourse. In some instances, it may be useful to do relationship counselling with your partner. Counsellors trained in Sex Therapy and Relationship Counselling can help to both to feel comfortable talking about sexual difficulties and communicate in non-blaming, non-judgemental way.

Research on Male Sexual Dysfunction

METHOD/RESULTS

Up to 40% of men have experienced Premature Ejaculation, making it the most common sexual dysfunction. Premature Ejaculation results in personal distress and relationship issues, low quality of life and slow sexual confidence.

RESEARCH ARTICLE

Vukina, J., Mcbride, J. A., Carson, C. C., & Coward, R. M. (2018). Premature ejaculation. Evidence-Based Urology,569-578. doi:10.1002/9781119129875.ch51

METHOD/RESULTS

Premature Ejaculation is the most common sexual dysfunction and it is underdiagnosed as doctors do not inquire about it, making it difficult to treat. Premature Ejaculation can often have psycho-sexological components in addition to medical aspects.

RESEARCH ARTICLE

Porto, R., & Giuliano, F. (2013). L’éjaculation prématurée. Progrès En Urologie,23(9), 647-656. doi:10.1016/j.purol.2013.01.005

METHOD/RESULTS

Delayed ejaculation is a complex event that is poorly understood sexual dysfunction. A study of 100 couples found that 17% of men experienced inhibited ejaculation. Another study found that 2.5% of men were unable to have an ejaculation.

RESEARCH ARTICLE

Butcher, M. J., & Serefoglu, E. C. (2017). Treatment of Delayed Ejaculation. The Textbook of Clinical Sexual Medicine,255-269. doi:10.1007/978-3-319-52539-6_17

METHOD/RESULTS

Sexual dysfunction can have a correlation with unusual masturbatory practices. Learning new practices can have a positive effect on sexual function, unlearning old ways. It is important for clinicians to ask questions about masturatory practices when assessing sexual dysfunction.

RESEARCH ARTICLE

W.B. Saunders Co.Bronner, G., & Ben‐Zion, I. Z. (2014). Unusual Masturbatory Practice as an Etiological Factor in the Diagnosis and Treatment of Sexual Dysfunction in Young Men. The Journal of Sexual Medicine,11(7), 1798-1806. doi:10.1111/jsm.12501

METHOD/RESULTS

This study examines 88 patients with retrograde ejaculation and 136 studies of anejaculation. Medical treatment can include electroejaculation, electrovibration stimulation. Sperm quality can be impaired however there are techniques available to help with this.

RESEARCH ARTICLE

Kamischke, A. (1999). Mini symposium: Non-surgical sperm recovery: Part II. Treatment of retrograde ejaculation and anejaculation. Human Reproduction Update,5(5), 448-474. doi:10.1093/humupd/5.5.448

METHOD/RESULTS

Untreated impotence can become progressively worse as a fear of failure can eventually result in total sexual incapacity. Hypnosis has had positive result in improving impotence.

RESEARCH ARTICLE

Nuland, W. (1978). The Use of Hypnosis in the Treatment of Impotence. Hypnosis at Its Bicentennial,221-227. doi:10.1007/978-1-4613-2859-9_21

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