Couples/Relationship Counselling in Auckland or Online

Relationship Counselling Therapy (RCT) is based in Auckland, close to Ponsonby Road. Counselling is also available online via Zoom. If you answer yes to any of these questions, then you could benefit from relationship counselling:

Do you feel a lack of connection/intimacy/trust in your relationship?

Are you constantly arguing or have you stopped communicating?

Perhaps you feel that you are both leading separate lives?

Has a betrayal affected your relationship?

Or maybe you are in a good relationship but want to make it better?

Couples counselling can help.

How couples counselling can help

If you feel that something in your relationship could improve then couples counselling may give you the skills and tools you need to re-iginite passion, communication, connection and trust into your relationship. I believe that romantic partnerships are the most precious relationships we have and should get regular nourishment and cherishment to thrive and flourish. I love seeing people break free of negative conflict, repair trust, improve communication and find renewed passion with couples counselling. I have trained in specific Gottman, EFT and Imago Relationship therapy modalities to ensure you get the best professional help possible. I regularly engage in training and supervision to ensure that I am up-to-date with the most recently developments and techniques in couples counselling and relationship therapy.

Counselling can help Save Your Relationship

If you want to fall in love again with your partner, rebuild trust, or even if you just want heal a broken heart, then an online relationship counselling session could be the most important step to take. In fact, if you can learn how to conflict effectively your chances of having a long term relationship dramatically increase. Margo has helped hundreds of couples rebuild passionate relationships, resolve conflict and learn practical tools to communicate effectively and rebuild intimacy.

Do you want to:

  • Save your relationship
  • Regain Intimacy
  • Resolve Conflict
  • Rebuild Trust
  • Renew Passion
  • Recover from an affair
  • Learn to communicate effectively
  • Move on from a break-up

Then go ahead and click the Book Now button and you’ll be on your way to moving forward  in your relationship. Let’s get started right now.

Common reasons client seek couples relationship counselling are:

  • On-going conflict and unresolved resentments
  • Lack of connection
  • Pornography/physical intimacy compulsion
  • Infidelity/recovery after an affair
  • Intimacy issues
  • Differences in core values/beliefs
  • Traumatic events
  • Jealously
  • Blended family issues
  • Anger management
  • Work related stress/anxiety
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Lack of/poor communication
  • Conflict regarding parenting styles/in-laws/house-work/friends/work
  • Blended families
  • Compulsions
  • Transitioning/ending a relationship

Research indicates that conflict is essential to a healthy relationship. 69% of couples problems are unsolvable (Gottman, 1999) however what counts is how people manage conflict. Conflict can actually be an opportunity to enhance relationships. Skills such as emotional regulation are taught as each partner should be emotionally calm when speaking. Learning to communicate with a couples counsellor ensure that both peoples needs are represented in a fair, positive and respectful way.

After lack of communication, infidelity is the next biggest reason that couples come for couples counselling. Research and experience indicate that if a couple can overcome an affair, then their relationship can be better than it was previously. There are several reasons for an affair and whether a couple decides to break-up or stay together, it is beneficial to have open and honest communication with a 3rd party counselling professional.

For Relationships or Marriages in crisis mode

If your relationship or marriage is in crisis mode, counselling may be the vital link to saving your future together. It’s the number one way to make rapid improvements to your relationship. Topics covered in a relationship counselling session might include:

  • Tools to communicate better
  • Get rid of resentments
  • Learning differences between healthy and unhealthy conflict
  • Understand both you and your partners approach to conflict
  • Identify your needs
  • Make a safe space for your partner to talk
  • Betrayal of trust such as infidelity
  • Anxiety
  • Intimacy issues such as erectile dysfunction or libido discrepancy
  • Repair relationship with in-laws
  • Different parenting styles

Physical Intimacy Counselling

Margo has done extensive training in physical intimacy therapy and this topic does not need to be the elephant in the room. Counselling can focus on the emotional intimacy, libido differences, and any male or female dysfunctions within your relationship. These may commonly be such as difficulty with orgasm, delayed or premature ejaculation. Please feel free to discuss these issues at any session.

For couples that would like counselling to enhance a relationship that already has great communication and connection established, there are several options. This is for couples where there is no dysfunction but may be bored or looking to take their connection to the next level. Margo has considerable experience in a range of professional techniques and modalities  to help take your relationship or marriage to the next level.

Why should I invest in my relationship?

In successful relationships it’s been proven that putting your marriage first is vital. Once you become parents, your relationship matters even more because you have other people counting on you. These small people role model from you how to manage conflict, be assertive, give and receive love. The reality is that your kids will grow up, friends will move away, parents will pass on, but your spouse is the one person that will be with you through it all. The quality of our life depends on the quality of our relationships. Relationship counselling will give you the skills to take your life to the next level.

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How is couples therapy different to individual counselling?

Relationship therapy is different to individual therapy as the focus in couples counselling is on how two individuals interact rather than individuals issues. Couples counselling can work in tandem with individual counselling however for some issues, it is important that an individual also sees their own counsellor. This is to ensure that there is no bias towards any one individual. As a couples therapist, my client is the relationship, not any one individual. Often, couple counsellors will not treat an individual separately as this may unconsciously result in the therapist taking sides. It is imperative that the counsellor gives both individuals equal time, attention, empathy, understanding and unconditional positive regard.

It is not uncommon that one person in the coupleship will initiate counselling and the other person will need to be coerced or given an ultimatum into attending a counselling session. Research has shown that a relationship is often in trouble for long period of time before professional therapy is sought. Frequently, once couples attend the first counselling session, relief is often immediate. In the first session, individuals learn invaluable communication skills that not only benefit them in the coupledom but also within their working life, friends and family situations.

In conjoint couples therapy, the patterns of interaction can be much easier to see. Through psycho-education and self-reflection, each partner can identify with their coping strategies. This brings couples much closer and healing can happen at a much faster rate than individual therapy.

Will individual counselling build a better relationship with my partner?

Research has shown that individual therapy rather than couples relationship counselling (for a communication/connection/conflict issue) can make the situation worse and even result in divorce. In couples therapy, when each partner is emotionally honest it creates the foundation for intimacy and conflict repairs. Relationship and Couples counsellors are skilled in helping people find the right words to talk about difficult problems.

Gottman relationship therapy is a form of couples therapy whose counselling interventions are based on CBT interventions. Couples learn to recognise their negative conflict patterns and introduce positive, open, honest communication and by doing so, increase respect, intimacy, and affection.

Imago relationship therapy is a form of couples relationship counselling that is based on communication dialogues between the couple. Imago relationship therapy has a more psychotherapeutic emphasis than Gottman relationship therapy as it often explores acknowledging how childhood triggers affect current day to day behavior.

About Margo

Margo is a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, Registered Counsellor with MZAC,  and Clinical Hypnotherapist, based in Auckland. She is specializing in relationships, compulsions, anxiety, work stress, and depression. She also offers EMDR therapy for trauma.  Margo has trained with world-renowned teachers specialized in their chosen field and has worked in international world-leading residential treatment centres, assisted facilitating relationship workshops, intensives and retreats and has run corporate stop smoking programmes. She also speaks on topics such as emotional intelligence, and resilience in the workplace. She has also run workshops for those wanting to find love and/or recover from relationship break-up and managing conflict as well as appearing on national radio and tv. Relationship Counselling Therapy is based on College Hill in Auckland.

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