Anger can be a toxic secondary emotion that is used as substitute for unprocessed primary painful feelings such as feeling guilty, ignored, untrustworthy, unimportant, powerless, rejected, threatened, sensitive to criticism or experiencing some loss. If you become angry frequently, harm yourself or others or your anger level is disproportionate to the provocation, then it would be beneficial to start anger management counselling.
Anger management counselling sessions:
In counselling sessions we will explore releasing internalised anger, hatred, bitterness, unforgiveness and replacing it with a sense of calm relaxation using a range of strategies.
Tailored strategies can include self-regulation techniques, mindfulness, person centred counselling, NLP or hypnotherapy empowering clients to gain resources without feeling intolerable guilt or shame and learn positive new ways to communicate effectively. The cost of ignoring an anger problem may result in divorce, estrangement from family, sleep, health and job loss.
Consequences of anger:
- Although it may feel good to express anger in the moment, it often leads to feelings of guilt, shame, embarrassment and remorse which can damage self-esteem.
- Anger triggers the bodys “fight or flight” response. The adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol. This can lead to longer-term physical effects including increased anxiety, high blood pressure and headaches, insomnia, depression, digestion problems, heart attack and stroke.
- Frequent and/or intense anger outbursts, whether verbal or physical can destroy marriages, break apart families and ruin friendships.
- Impact on children
- Legal issues such as road rage, domestic violence, physical assault, child abuse
Benefits of anger management counselling
- Express anger in healthy ways. Repressed anger often turns into depression and anxiety. Bottled anger can be directed at innocent parties such as children or pets.
- Recognise your triggers and regain control of your emotions and experience more peace and calm
- Communicate “time-outs” effectively
- Gain understanding on any reasons/unmet needs and communicate those respectfully and safely
- Rebuild relationships and learn healthy assertive communication strategies
- Learn new relaxation techniques
- Communicate needs in a new tactful, respectfully, safe, assertive way
- Let go of what outside of your control and focus on what you can control